Fat Girl Musings - Fat Shaming in romcoms/sitcoms.

**Just a small caveat**
I in no way mean to exclude other genders and sexuality's by using hetero examples and she/her he/him.



Hey everyone!

I am feeling very Carrie Bradshaw right now sitting on my bed with my laptop on my...can you guess? Lap! Also, because I've been binge watching Sex and The City for the past few days. I watched the SaTC movies last weekend and thought why not start the series all over again!? Fun!

But...

As a plus size woman I feel very......excluded when watching shows like this. Or Friends, The New Girl, and Baby Daddy. They, save for SaTC, have a main player who used to be fat. Jokes are made at their former fatness and then praised for being 'hot' in their new body.

I think there is one fat joke/remark made every three episode of Sex and The City., from lines like "Fatties, need not apply" to "I wonder how fat she got?". I used to hate myself after watching this show. I would feel like utter shit because if the women who looked like them had trouble finding a man then who in the world would I ever find to love someone who looked like me?

Before this go around it has been a couple of years since I had watched SaTC. I am no longer the same girl who watched through tears back then, now I watch with a WTF? look on my face. The way these people act toward the men in their lives is insane. The reasons they dump them are sometimes so asinine I can't help but mumble at my TV "dumb ass no wonder he left you". Now I know that it's fiction and they need story lines and plot points and yadda yadda but fat shaming? Really? Why?

Why couldn't Riley still be plus size and get with both Wheeler brothers? Why did a fat to thin story have to be Monica's catalyst for her OCD tendencies? Or Schmit's? Why are none of the women on Sex and The City plus size?

The movie Summer Catch was one of my faves when I was a teen, and even now for that matter. Baseball, Freddie Prinze Jr. Mathew Lillard, Jessica Beal, and Brittany Murphy? Yes please! But after watching it again for the first time in years I was horrified by the way they tease their teammate about being with a "fat girl". By the way she was what I would call average (and gorgeous). But they gave him hell for it. Why could he not be aloud to like the fat girl? Why?

In sitcom/romcom land the worst thing a person can be is fat. The best thing they can do is be fat and then loose a ton of weight. I am so ready for a plus size female lead to show little chubby girls that you too will find a sweet/fun/tough/man to love you. I am so ready for a smoking hot male lead to fall for the wit/charm/sass/smart/strong/plus size girl and show all of the young boys that it's okay to feel attracted to girls who look like that.

I hate that it took 30 years for me to learn that people who look like me do fall in love with people who are socially labeled as 'hot'. Have I found that man yet? No, but now I know I have just as much, if not better chances of falling and staying in love with someone as a woman half my size does. To be loved not in spite of the way I look but because of the way I look.

I still have hope of getting my John Huges movie moment and in the mean time I'll wait for the world to catch up and realize that fat girls are fucking awesome.

Ta for now,
Kayla



P.s.
All bodies are good bodies and all deserved to worshiped and adored. Big, small, short, tall, and everything in between, we all deserve love.

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